– Welcome to the Adventures
of Alcaraz Podcast (laughs). My name is Julian Alcaraz. – And I’m Miranda Alcaraz. And this is week 11 to 12 – Wow–
– Of our pregnancy podcast. – So we’re like, a fourth, over a fourth, of the way done. – Mmh.
– It’s pretty wild. It’s been a great week. Because we go to find
out what we’re having. – A baby.
– A baby. (both laughing) – Whether it be a girl or a boy– – Yeah, we did get our results– – I know it we were
highly anticipating that, how excited we were for– – But even more exciting, we found out that, the baby is very healthy. Well doesn’t have any of
the markers for things, they were testing for in the NIPT test. – Correct, which like we
talked about last week, not that it would’ve mattered, it just kind of prepares us for, its just you know, peace of mind, to know how ____ doing. – You said it. – I did but we are going to look into it. (Miranda laughing) Alright, so this week was great. Wednesday, I know we were
anticipating the call and, we got a missed call,
’cause they called so late– – Oh my gosh, so I had given up, you know so, they said
five to 10 business days. Which five business days
would’ve been on Wednesday, which is exactly one week
after we took the blood draw. And, of course, like the
crazy person that I am, I had like Googled, on like
different message boards how long it took other people to get their results from the same company. And unless it was over like, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years,
or something like that. All of them were saying I got my results exactly one week after. And so, on Wednesday I was convinced I was going to get that call. And 5 p.m. rolls around and nothing. And so, (exhales deeply)
I put my phone down, started warming up to work out, grabbed my phone like, seven minutes later. Its like 5:07, I had
missed the call at 5:02. 5:02, they waited ’til after five. And so I called them back, no answer, called them back again, no answer. And I was like, gosh dang it, we’re going to have to wait ’til tomorrow. And I was so irritated, at myself, number one, for
not having my ringer on. And at them, for calling after five. Because I feel like, of all the places, doctors offices, are so rigid on their
5 p.m. cutoff schedule. – It’s like a bank, you know. Where they’re just 5
p.m., it’s closing time. So, I had given up, and we
had to wait ’til the next day. And that night, I had a little bit of a meltdown, do you remember? – Of course, I remember. (Miranda laughing) – Not a meltdown like. – You had a panic. – I was just having a real hard time sleeping and I was emotional because, they do test for some pretty scary things. Several of which could mean that your baby won’t make it through the whole pregnancy, or that has a very slim
chance of living more than like, a year. And up until that point,
you’re just kind of like, blissfully thinking that
everything is perfect, with your pregnancy or I
guess hoping and being, not knowing for sure but, I knew I was going to
call them first thing in the morning and just kind
of going to bed that night, it’s like this, I’m just, maybe I’m just like a doomsday person, but I was just like, this could be the last night that we have in our mind that we have a perfectly healthy baby. Where tomorrow, we could find out that, that’s not the case at all, and it could start this whole, journey of preparing to have a baby who’s not going to be well
or whatever, you know. Figuring out how we’re going
to deal with any sort of, results that come back. So, I was little bit
worried about it, yeah. – Yes, it was great though, because it was a time where
everybody was there anyway, so that kind of would’ve
taken away from the moment, I feel like. So it was good, because it
put us in a position where, we called, in the next morning as soon as they opened up, 9 A.M. And you were like, “Hey,
I got a missed call “from you guys, whats up?” – I did not expect them to be
able to talk to me at nine, because this isn’t some information, that the like, receptionist
at the doctors office is going to go over with you. So, I figured they
would just take my name, and say that the doctor
would call me later. And again, it would be at
like 4:30, five o’clock, when they actually got around
to calling me back, but… Yeah, so I called, “I
said I had missed a call “from you guys,” and they were like, “Do you know what it was about?” And I said, “well I’m
waiting for some test.” I also was like, kind of thinking that it was
going to be something dumb like where they were going to say, “Oh we were just calling to confirm your, “appointment next week.” Because I do have an appointment this week to go to the doctor.
– Yeah. – And so I was simultaneously trying not to let myself get my hopes up, that that’s why they
were calling (exhales). So, I said, “well I’m waiting
for some test results, “but I don’t know if that’s
why they were calling or not.” And they were like, “Okay hold on.” And then, when someone came back, it was our… I don’t want to call her a nurse, I’m not sure exactly what her role is, its not our… That wasn’t our doctor that we talked to, it was the… I mean
– It was somebody else, that was able to read
the information to us– – Yeah, maybe she is
a nurse, I don’t know. And she said I have your results from the NIPT test, is now a good time? And so I gave him, I gave you, one of the pods, the air, the ear pods. – Mmh.
– And, ’cause for us, these types of things, and I know not everybody is like this, in their relationships, and some dads aren’t super involved in the doctors appointments and stuff. But for us, it’s very
much a team thing and– – Yeah.
– So I didn’t want to get the results myself and then just tell you later or anything like that. So, you had an ear pod
and I had an ear pod and the first thing she told us, as she went through all the like, specific genetic things
they were testing for, and said that they were all negative. And of course, because it’s just a screen and it’s not like a diagnostic test, there’s a chance for false
positive or negative, – Right.
– Like you still got to wait ’til the baby is born to find out, everything exactly, obviously. But for sure, peace of mind that nothing, no red flags came up. And I was just like, sobbing. – Yeah.
– Like just crying. And then we had talked about, when going to the office and
having them put the gender in an envelope. Remember, and we were going to go get it, and then park somewhere quiet, and open it together, but at this point like it was super quiet in our house, we were on the couch in our living room. And so when she asked if we
wanted to know the gender? we kind of like, talked about it for a second. And then said yes. And she was like, “are you sure?” Because we were like, discussing it, like with her on the phone. And we said, “Yeah, tell us.” And so, what did she say? – She said, “You guys are having a boy.” – Yeah, another boy.
– Yes. – And then we both just like, got a little emotional for that. – Yeah, we did. – Yeah. – It was very special. I can see it right now,
like your (mumbles). (Miranda laughing) Make you feel emotional again, why?
– Yeah. I don’t know. And I know like, this
might be a controversial thing to say these days, but I do feel for me that, the more information that
I have about my child, the more I feel like I
know him as a person. And that’s true with
all these genetic tests or whatever just… It’s a really weird feeling
to have a human being with you 24/7 and know nothing
about this person (giggles). You know so, for me like, knowing that it’s because, Knox is a little boy and now I know this is a little boy, and I know that they’re
not the same little boy or they might be completely,
completely different. But it just helps me feel like I know, him a little bit more.
– Yeah. – And can connect with him
a little bit more and… So yeah, I mean, what about for you? – It was special for me. I mentioned to you already… there was that whole teasing me, like, oh you’re going to have a girl, you’re going to have a girl. But something inside of me knew that, I just felt it was going
to be a boy, you know, would I have been ready for a girl? Yes, was I scared to have a girl? Yes, but, I would’ve done my best at it, and I know I would’ve been a great father to a little girl but, to hear that I, we have another boy coming along, that’s exciting for me because, it’s almost like a recap, reliving my life and now getting to see it from a fathers point of view. – Yeah, because one big thing that, I was saying to you is, you are, the second little boy. – I am the second little boy. – Yeah, you have a brother that’s about, what how three years older than you? – Two and half, yeah. – So, very similar age difference. Like you are the baby, that’s
currently in the belly. Like it’s weird to think
about it that way, but… And I mean, your mom is our
child’s caretaker (giggles). – Yeah.
– So she’s just like, starting over, basically, it’s crazy. – It was like a special
moment for her too, just because it is like a, again like a do over
and getting to see it, from a grandma’s point of view. And then having me step up into, the father point of view. To me it’s a special thing because, now I get to connect
with my dad even more. Seeing what he went through, because now I’m being put
in the sames steps as that. So that to me, is very special. Knowing that we have
two boys coming along, like that fires me up as a dad. Because, I know the special bond that, (Miranda coughing) I had with my brother when I was younger. And everything growing
up, how that meant to me. So knowing that Knox is going
to to have the same thing, it’s just like guiding him
from some of the mistakes that I felt that were
made in the relationship with my brother and myself. And just always being there, to allow them to be
vulnerable with each other. So that’s, it pumps me up, you know. And of course, like there’s
like the whole things of now the Alcaraz name is
going to continue living on. You know, but those are all
small things in my eyes, I’m just excited for them and watching their relationship and being a father to that relationship for them. – And then we went out… So after we found out, we
went out to the garage, ’cause your mom and
Knox were in the garage, of course he was working out, as always. His morning workout. We told them. You’re mom said something really funny, he was like, oh my gosh, thank goodness, like, I didn’t know to
take care of a girl, I was really nervous. (laughing) – She was also scared. – Yeah, ’cause she’s raised, you and your brother and
that’s what she knows. So, I think all of us had a little bit of a fear of a little girl. There’s definitely been, it not now, like it’s pretty much gone, besides that we did come up
with a really sweet, girls name, – And good.
– that will not be used. And I still am not going to
tell anyone, just in case. – Yeah.
– You never know. But, and we had just
come up with it two days before we found out. – Yeah.
– It was really, it was a really cool name. But, you know there was definitely like, some of me that had to
let go of that idea, because we do plan on this being, our last kid.
– Yeah. – To let go of the idea that I will ever have a daughter, is like a little bit, I mean you got to like, let go of that. And, I was, there was a part of me, that was excited for
that opportunity for me. – Same here. (Miranda exhales) But, you know and then, at first, I think of it as like, oh I like… The moment we were
telling your mom and Knox, Knox was running around the
garage like a wild banshee. He’s just so hyper and talkative and just, I mean, he’s a handful, not in a bad way, like in like a, he doesn’t obey way. But he’s just high energy.
– Yeah. – And at first, you’re like, oh my gosh, like there’s
going to be two of these, little wild banshees. And then, the more I’ve let it settle in, the more I’ve really
realized and almost can feel that this second baby is like, is not another Knox, like its a completely different person. You and you’re brother are very different, – Yeah. – Me and all my siblings
are very different. Like, so to not assume that
they’re going to be the same, or have the same interests,
or like be the same, as babies or toddlers, or anything.
– Yeah. – And just like, really get like, getting to know Knox
is been literally like, the highlight of my entire life, ’cause he’s so funny and just silly. – Yeah.
– And smart. And just like, to have an opportunity to start from scratch to get to know, the second one. I’m not going to say his
name, we do have a name, we’re not going to tell you guys yet. And just, I can feel that
he’s a different person. He feels different to me already, and the situation is
different and everything, so, I think that’s important to like, remember that to automatically, right out of the gate, just and… I mean, maybe you can speak to this too, because you’re one of two brothers. But to not compare or
expect them to be the same or anything.
– That’s right. It’s not comparing, it’s summarize it.
– Yeah. – ‘Cause each one is their
own individual person. Each one of them is
going to have their own set of talents and skills, and the way communicate
and express it themselves. So, it’s going to be great, a fun journey. – Yeah. Of course like, I’m into like horoscopes and Enneagrams and stuff like that. And I don’t put like too
much weight into it but, again I just want to know
more about this person, and like, so I started looking up. So Knox is a Leo, which is
like very wants attention and very much a performer and a little like diva-ish, or whatever. And Knox, I mean, in the
description of Knox as a toddler, says that he’s bossy
which he absolutely is. And, the new baby, he will be a Taurus. And so we will have a lion and a bull, running around and, but even there, even with those personality profiles are like very different. I’m just like super excited to see how he’s different, and
how they’re the same, and how they like–
– Connecting. – Connect together yeah. – Yeah, so that’s, our reveal. And I know that this week, you know you’ve kind of switched now, going to you personally feeling like a, your eating has kind of shifted
for even, in the evening. – Yeah, I haven’t felt, and its getting back to normal now, but for sure like most of last week, I haven’t been like,
almost as hungry at night, and just like eating in general, sounds like (sighs), to me. So eating our regular, like
ground turkey, rice, vegis, even though that’s what I eat every night for dinner for years now, like
it just hasn’t sounded good. I would like have a
hard time finishing it. So I’ve been making breakfast for dinner. Like bacon, eggs, toast,
its been so delicious. – Yeah, so tasty. – Maybe the french toast thing, really set that off. I don’t know, but its been
good, its been different. Just making sure that I’m eating enough, and you made us get pizza on Wednesday. You and Brian.
– Yeah. – Remember I fell asleep in Knox’s room and I came down, and I
was not going to eat it. – Yeah
– But I was so out of it, and so hungry, and you guys
had saved me some slices and I just hammered it, big time. – So tasty, so tasty. – I know, I was so mad
at myself after that, ’cause I didn’t want it. – Yeah, we’ve been trying to get you to, get the best sleep possible, because your body is so extremely tired. But we know now why, right,
like you haven’t been able to get consistent
sleep throughout the night. So just trying to navigate through that, I mean normal obstacles that
everybody goes through, just, being aware of them. And that’s why allowing, you’ve been giving yourself plenty of time to go home and just have alone time before people go to the house
to workout and everything. – Yeah.
– You can connect, with our baby. – Yeah, and I’ve gained five pounds now. Which I think I talked
last week on the podcast that I was worried that I
wasn’t gaining enough weight. But then between week 10, I
don’t think I weighed myself, on week 11, or I didn’t write it down, if I did, and I think it was, just ’cause it was still the same. But from week 10 to 12, I’ve
gained like three more pounds, and so now these weight, pregnancy weight calculators are so dumb. ‘Cause literally, when I went on there two weeks ago, it made me feel like I
hadn’t gained enough. I gained three pounds, and now its telling me
that I’ve gained too much. – Oh wow. – And I think that those
things, really mess with people. Like, I think, like, its so individual, and weight, like they have it on, like a one pound a week thing or whatever. And its like, well for four
weeks, I didn’t gain anything, and then in two weeks,
I gained three pounds. Like, I don’t know, I think
that all of that stuff, I think, listen to your doctor, and even some doctors are really
dumb about like telling… I had this problem last time, where they felt like Knox
was going to be tiny, just because of the shape of my belly. Or doctors telling people
that they’ve gained too much or too little or whatever. I mean, there is definitely, like you don’t want to
overdo it or you definitely want to make sure you’re eating enough, but we’ve had friends that have told us, some close friends of ours, where she said she gained
almost all of her weight for her second pregnancy
in the first trimester, versus people who say
they don’t gain any weight in their first trimester… I just think, stay away
from those calculators, because (giggles). – Yeah, and even to what you were saying, its not even the doctors a dummy, I know you don’t feel that, its just definitely that– – Not dumb, but they’re
mean in their delivery. – Yeah, and its and what’s… I think happening now, is
that doctors go off this chart – Yes.
– And they don’t, they’re not taking the time
based off of, seems like, their experience in the field, and like the longer they’re
in it, they get so burned out, that they forget that each person is going through like, their own story. And as opposed to, making
people feel at peace, right, like, these apps, and be like, hey just understand this
is just like a general, but its okay if its different, its a different journey for you. I think that its just. You know they took that
small, little extra time to give the peace of mind, that’s where everybody wouldn’t be going in the direction that they’re going. Everybody’s like panic, everybody’s like, that isn’t aware, like you said, this app is telling you,
oh no, this is too much, and now what? You know, that sucks. – Yeah.
– I feel for you guys. (sighs) That’s sucks. – It’s really annoying. But yeah, the doctors use the
same charts that the apps use and everything.
– Yeah, its rough. – Yeah, I mean I feel okay about it. – Yeah, I know absolutely. (Miranda giggles) – And then the best, I would say the biggest highlight
of the last week has been, Knox talking to
______ – The baby.
– Yeah, the baby. – A lot.
– Yes. – And, I mean he high fives him, he says, “what’s up bro,” I tell him to tell him, “good morning.” He’ll be like, “good morning bro,” and he’ll like smack him. He hugs the belly. And like yesterday, we
were painting pumpkins, and he’s like helping paint
his little brothers pumpkin, ’cause he can’t paint it himself yet. And just, we started going
through Knox’s old clothes, and he was helping, well kind of. He was there.
– Yeah. – With that, and so getting him involved has been really fun, now that we can tell him
a little more about it so. – Yeah.
– Yeah. – Its been a good week. And now this week, we’re
looking forward to it as well. But yes, that’s a recap on week 11. – Okay. The week 12.
– Week 12, right. – Yes (giggles).
– Alright, week 12. Alright guys, thank you
so much for listening. Again this is, Adventures
of Alcaraz Podcast. – I’m Julian Alcaraz. – I’m Miranda Alcaraz. – Talk soon. (dynamic music)