My Story Behind Our Baby’s Gender| IVF Success

My Story Behind Our Baby’s Gender| IVF Success


Well, hello there. Welcome back to Let’s Make
Lemonade. I have brought a buddy and her name is Bella. Say hi, Bella. She’s a bulldog,
and she’s my buddy. She has helped me tremendously during my time of infertility, not knowing
what was going to happen, not knowing, not knowing anything. The walks, the many walks
we would take together has been super helpful for my mind and my heart. And so I’m super
thankful for her. I know all of you who have dogs, little fur babies can totally relate
to what I’m saying. So if you are new here, my name is Salina.
I have infertility. And the whole purpose of this channel is to share my infertility
story. I felt like it was pressed upon my heart to share, and I’m really glad I did
because I have met so many incredible people along the way, including you, and we all need
to know that for those of us who are dealing with infertility, that we are not alone, right? So today is going to be very interesting.
So I want to share with you more of the holes and more of the gaps of our story. I love
you, too. I want to share something very special with you that occurred or that happened to
me back last February, and I’m doing this right before we tell you the gender on next
week’s video. So I want to just preface it with this story because I want you to kind
of know the backstory of the gender and all of that. I know that we all have, some of us have very
different beliefs, but if you have listened or if you have watched enough of these videos,
you know what my belief is. I’m a Christian. I love the Lord and He is number one in my
life. And my faith is more important to me than anything in this world. And so I will be talking a little bit about…
actually maybe talking a lot about God. So if that is offensive to you or that’s something
you just don’t want to hear, then I’m just letting you know ahead of time. So I want to tell you what happened to me
last February. It’s something that’s special, near and dear to my heart and I will never
ever forget it. My husband and I, Mondo, have been together for 11 years. We have been trying
to conceive for the majority of those years. There was a gender that I decided long ago
that I wanted and I put it in my mind. I put it in my heart and I prayed and I hoped for
so many years that this was going to be the gender that we would have. So I’m going to
try to say all of this without being specific, without saying he or she. So let’s see if
I can get through this. After we got our egg retrieval done, I got
the call from the embryologist who said, “Hey, we have this X amount of embryos. Do you want
to know which ones are female and male?” Of course. I was like, “Yes, I want to know,”
because in my mind, I wanted this one gender. And honestly out of… Well all total, we
ended up getting… Sorry girl. All total, we ended up getting four embryos that were
pre-genetically, which means pre-genetically tested chromosomally normal, but we didn’t
know about the fourth one until months later and that’s a whole different story. I was okay with getting all of those embryos,
that one gender that I wanted. I was totally okay with that. So I get the call from the
embryologist and she says, “Okay, I have the genders. Do you want to know?” And I’m like,
“Yes.” She says, “Okay, well these three are one gender. Okay. And we have the other, obviously
the other gender, we have one of those.” Well wouldn’t you know that the one that I wanted
and I’ve prayed for so many years is the one that we got, not the other three, but the
one. I was happy of course that we had chromosomally
normal embryos. Hello. That was amazing. At 36 years old, I mean I was 35 at the retrieval
time. However, my mind was fixated on the other gender. So I had my egg retrieval done
in January, as a lot of you know. In February, I went to Puerto Rico. My family’s from Puerto
Rico. My dad and his wife live there. It’s very much like home away from home for me. And so we went. I went to go relax and try
to just get rid of just all the hormones that I had been taking. I just felt so bloated
and gross. We got that call from the embryologist just like two days before we went to Puerto
Rico. I was kind of upset. I talked to the Lord and I was like, “Lord, I really wanted
that one gender. Why do I only have one of those?” I don’t want to get into it, but I
didn’t want the other gender that we had the three of, first for a lot of personal reasons.
Honestly, it’s stuff that I had to work within myself and that the Lord really worked in
within myself because it was for reasons that weren’t really healthy. I just needed to kind
of work through that. So I’m praying about it. My husband, Mondo
was like, “Let’s go ahead and transfer that one embryo first.” I’m like, “I don’t feel
peace about that.” And thank God we did it right? Because the first embryo, if that first
transfer failed for us, I didn’t feel peace about it. A couple days later, we’re in Puerto
Rico and we have this chat, and he says, “You know what? I don’t think we’re supposed to
implant that one one either. And let’s talk about why you don’t want to have the other
ones.” Anyway, that’s a long story and it’s really personal. But I got to a place where
I’m like, “Okay, you’re right, I’m being silly. Let’s go ahead and transfer the other gender
that we have the three of.” I usually stay a week with my dad, by myself.
So sometimes we’ll go for like two weeks. Mondo will be with me for one week and then
I’ll be with one week for my dad. So he’s gone. I had this most incredible godly moment
with my dad. It was super special because where he’s at in his place with the Lord,
it just did a lot for him and in his faith. And so one day, Mondo leaves. It’s my dad
and I. We are visiting this academy. My dad’s an artist, and he does work for this school.
And he took me to the school and he showed me the murals and the pictures of the children
and he showed me inside. Long story short, we, the pastor of the school,
it’s connected to the church, and the pastor of this school my dad introduces us to each
other and he speaks only Spanish. So I understand much of it, but I don’t fluently speak it.
So anyway, he tells the pastor, “This is my daughter and she’s a teacher.” And we talked
about the possibility of me teaching there. So he said, “But you know, she wouldn’t do
it until after she has a baby. Her and her husband are praying for a baby.” And the pastor
says, he just was like, “We need to pray now.” He was like, “Well, is she pregnant now?”
And my dad says, “No.” And he’s like, “Well, let’s pray.” So he tells my dad to put his hand on my womb,
on my stomach, and we’re in the middle of a parking lot outside in Puerto Rico where
it’s humid and hot on the island. Her face is a little distracting, isn’t it? She has
such a serious face. And so he starts praying. It’s in Spanish, but I could tell it was powerful.
I felt the presence of the Lord. It was great. So after he prays, he says, “The Lord says
that she’s going to be pregnant in six months. She’s going to have this gender and this is
going to be the name.” And we were both shocked. We were both incredibly shocked. We talked
about it for the rest of the day. I mean, when you get a word like that, you always
have to just wait and pray and see if it really did come from the Lord. But man, we were excited.
It was just an incredible time and it did so much for he and I, my dad and I. And so that was in February. Okay? We did
our transfer in July, in the end of July. And so I was newly pregnant towards the end
of… We found out in the end of July going into August, which is six months away from
February. So if you don’t think God is real, if you don’t think that He’s in it, think
again, because He’s not a respecter of persons. So if He can do that for me, He can do that
for anyone. It’s just been such an incredible godly thing.
Now I will tell you for years, I didn’t hear from the Lord. For years, I prayed and I thought
that I felt forgotten and that He didn’t hear me. And so we’re talking about 10 years here.
Okay? So it’s not like this happened quickly, but it happened when it was His timing. And
it’s amazing that when it’s the Lord’s timing, things change and nothing can go against when
it’s His will. So that is the story of the gender basically,
the like the back story of letting you in on how we knew which gender to transfer. The
other thing is that the three embryos that we had, they were the best. They were all
AAs. Right. The other gender is a BB. I think. So if we had left it to the embryologist and
we didn’t even know, our embryologist would have implanted the gender that we heard the
prophesy come from anyway. So it’s just pretty miraculous and it’s pretty incredible. You
know, if you’ve had something crazy miraculously happen like that, I would love to hear it
in the comments. You have to tell me, you know, God is real and He still speaks today
just like He did before. It’s a matter of do we believe. If we don’t believe, then you
probably won’t hear Him. And that doesn’t always happen all the time either. But I’m
just speaking in general. Anyway, so guys, I’m really happy that I get
to share the gender of our baby. I am 13 weeks when you see this. I will be 13 weeks. I’m
13 weeks tomorrow, but by the time you see this, I’m 13 weeks. I’m feeling great. It
was a rough week, I will say that. I won’t go into much detail, but emotionally it was
a rough week. I had some spotting but we’re good. Everything’s good. It was just my body
adjusting to the progesterone shots, getting off of them. But baby’s good, looks great.
So that was rough. But everything’s good. And just like I said,
when God ordained something, nothing can get in the way, right? So anyway, I wanted to
share that with you. That’s something personal and super sensitive and intimate. I know again,
we all have different beliefs, but hopefully you can respect our experience and the reality
of what happened for us. It’s not a coincidence. It is not a coincidence that any of it happened.
And I will tell you that the name that was given to us from the pastor means an oath
and promise. So I think it’s not a coincidence that it was prophesied to us that this baby
is a promise to us from God after so many years of not knowing and fighting. So I hope that encourages someone today who
is still in the wait. Those of you who are believers, believe that He is able, that He
is powerful, and that He wants those things for you, too. A lot of it is just, and you
hear me say this all the time, but a lot of it is just in His timing. I tried to rush
it for so long, but I had a lot of growth that I needed to do that I didn’t know. And
now that I look back on it, I thank God that He brought me through those places, in those
seasons so that I can be the mother that I need to be for my kids. So there you go. That’s the story. Next time
you see me, it’ll be Mondo and I. I don’t know how we’re going to do it, but we’re going
to go ahead and reveal to you what this sweet baby’s gender is. So I love all of your guesses.
It’s pretty funny to see how much you are guessing one or the other, but we’ll see who’s
right. We shall see who is right. So, that’s it folks. Until next time, see you then.

58 thoughts on “My Story Behind Our Baby’s Gender| IVF Success

  • I'm still team boy ๐Ÿ˜Š. Praying for no more spotting for you and that you get to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy without worrying. I have a story of being disappointed in one of our children's genders. I knew in my gut it was a boy but the dr. said it was a girl. I was trying not to cry, because I know all children are blessings, I was just having a harder time than I expected hearing it was a girl. I asked him to check again, since I didn't see the definitive 3 lines of a girl. He checked again and realized our baby boy was holding himself and that's why he didn't see anything and thought it was a girl. Lol. It was a learning experience for me because I realized how hard it can be to be disappointed with a gender even when you don't think you ever would be.

    I don't have experience with infertility but love watching your videos and praying for you all.

  • Where do I begin, Iโ€™m a recent born Christian ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ

    I went to my Cousins Church (now my Church) one evening after her nagging at me for 3 yrs ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ I went with one intention, to tell her I didnโ€™t like her church so she could quit bugging me. And my my my The Lord had a different plan for me as soon as I walked in I was like ol no this is where I belong I felt an instant peace ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ Church was over and I see the Pastor praying for my brother and he recieved the Holy Spirit and decided to get baptized so heโ€™s going up the altar and I run to get my phone to takes pictures and then literally ran up 2 sets of stairs to witness him getting baptized Iโ€™m crying tears of joy cause my Brother was lost for many years with many addictions and as I enter the room where heโ€™s about to be baptized I run into two ladies that hug me cause Iโ€™m crying & Iโ€™m thanking them and they said do you want to get baptized I immediately say yes yeah yeah something inside me was like this is your chance Mona, so they get me the gown and I rush to change cause I didnโ€™t want to miss my brother getting baptized cause he was already changing, I get out and heโ€™s still ainโ€™t out so they take me first to get baptized & as soon as I rise Iโ€™m speaking in tongues ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ I tell you what!!! God knew exactly what he was doing that night I walked into that church!!!!

    Weeks later Iโ€™m doubting everything about my presence in church & Iโ€™m crying and just praying during Church & I ask God for a sign to let me know I belong there and No joke the Pastor walks up to me and says everything is going to be ok just let it out I immediately start to speak in tongues again and afterwards another preacher on the altar comes up to the microphone and says someone in here is asking for a sign well hereโ€™s your sign ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ˜

    I have plenty of testimonies but these two are my favorite ๐Ÿฅฐ

    Gods timing is always perfect ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ

  • Not quite the same but I believe the Lord gave my husband and I infertility to save his life. We tried for a year for a baby. We got pregnant a month before our first appointment with our RE. We ended up losing that baby. Eventually we got to the RE, they recommended a urologist and the urologist found his testicular cancer recurrence. He was completely asymptomatic. It was in the lymph system in the direct center of his abdomen and had we never gone to the urologist, we never would have found it until it was probably too late. He went through chemo, told he would be sterile from chemo for at least 5 years. Tried donor IUI's. Then he had thyroid cancer… Fast forward 2 years after our first loss and 3 years of trying and 1 year post chemo (almost to the day) we concieved our miracle rainbow baby girl. I'm 17w2d and every test, every ultrasound she is healthy as can be, genetically normal, and growing perfectly on track. God works miracles. You can listen to half of my story on the "Sarah's laughter" podcast.

  • Iโ€™m a new subby. Love you guys. Just wanted to share a little something with you. I am also a Christian too. My faith is strong in him as well! So, I have a this friend …..and her and her husband tried for a baby for 12 years, NOTHING!!!! They were the first friends that I made, when I came to church. It was around Fatherโ€™s Day and I was praying over this mama like it was my gift(which, at the time, I didnโ€™t know that). I said around this time next year, you will be with baby. She looked at me afterwards and said, I love you honey, but you just donโ€™t get it. I said, but GOD SHOWED ME. I am happy to say, that year Baby Gracie arrived. And then two years later cane brother Carson and baby Parker will be joining the crew in a couple weeks. So, YES……GOD hears the desires of our heart. And in your case….his timing is perfect too๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™

  • Wow. Thank you so much for sharing your testimony! I canโ€™t tell you how many times fighting through this journey that I felt like God forgot about me. As Iโ€™ve looked back I realized that heโ€™s always come through…in his own time. Crazy part is God showed me everything weโ€™ve experienced as well as what our gender/s would be. Although I doubted here and there I just knew in my heart. After doing some much needed work Iโ€™m here ๐Ÿ˜Š 10w2d and I feel more prepared than ever to be the mom God knew Iโ€™d be. All the best on the rest of your pregnancy. ๐Ÿ’• canโ€™t wait to see what gender your rainbow baby is!!! ๐Ÿ˜Š

  • WOW!! What a powerful story. Thank you so much for sharing it with us. God is good. Have a beautiful and blessed evening.๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿคถ

  • What a blessing!!! I love the part of being prayed for. Some of our church members including pastors wife prayed over us before our 3rd transfer. A few days before the beta I wanted to home test. I go into my closet to get something and re read my Momโ€™s prayer for us to be pregnant and heard God say wait three times. I waited and we ate pregnant. When our first beta came back it was 26. I was worried. On the way to beta 2 I heard from God and he said baby is fine. Second beta was 56. Week later not much of having any symptoms expect a few and still hearing baby is good and beta 3 came back over a thousand!! God is good. This has been a beautiful journey.

    Thanks for sharing and God bless you and your family.

  • I just love how proud you are and so open about your faith!!!! Godโ€™s love is amazing and so real!!!!!โค๏ธ Many blessings to you and your family!!!!! He said โ€œ Faith of a mustard seedโ€!!!! ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ Canโ€™t wait for the reveal!!!!โค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜

  • Godโ€™s timing in never wrong ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’–

  • Months and months before having IVF we had been praying and felt the name Samuel was given to us, I looked it up and it means โ€˜God has heardโ€™ I felt so so strongly that this was a message from the Lord and held on to that for so long. August 2018 we had our first transfer, I was so anxious about whether it had worked, and I had God speak to me in SO many ways, one day a song came to mind, a song I didnโ€™t know and had maybe heard once before, so I looked up the lyrics as I couldnโ€™t understand why this song was going round and round in my mind, as soon as I opened the words the line โ€˜for once you have spoken, all nature and science follow the sound of your voiceโ€™ stood straight out to me (100 billion x by Hillsong) I knew and I felt it was from the Lord, even now I canโ€™t listen to that song without feeling his presence so strongly. In May 2019 I gave birth to a beautiful, perfect baby boy (we never found out the gender) we named him Samuel of course, as God does hear, he is perfect with HIS timing and so good! I have never shared this with anyone but felt compelled to comment on your video. Congratulations on your blessing ๐Ÿฅฐ

  • Aww man i love your videos and Iโ€™m so happy your pregnant. We have a similar story. Iโ€™m team boy ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™

  • Our babyโ€™s name also means that! Beautiful story ๐Ÿ™‚ praise God! Yes you are going to cherish those babies(present or future) ๐Ÿ’—

  • I felt so guilty for having a gender preference after so many long years of infertility. We found out super early that it was the opposite of what I had dreamed it would be. My amazing son is 9 months now and I am so eternally grateful to God for having a plan for me that was better than I could have ever dreamed!! I love your heart and this beautiful story!! Thank you for sharing with us.

  • What a beautiful Godly story โค๏ธ I had mine back in 2010, when I had a cataract on the only eye I have vision in. I was legally blind. I gave everything to the Lord, bathed in his music every day. After surgery and taking of the patch I was blessed with 20/25 vision. Went out side, colors were so vivid. Purples, pink, blue skies.. I dropped to my knees and cried and prayed. He spoke to me, a day I will never forget. โค๏ธ Thank you for sharing!

  • What a beautiful prophecy! Yes, all in Godโ€™s timing, when we finally surrender it all to Him. Canโ€™t wait for your reveal! No guesses here, just a healthy baby๐Ÿ’œ

  • Thank you for sharing! I do believe God is real! Your prophecy gave me goosebumps! Now I really can't wait for the gender reveal! I think you are having a girl! ๐Ÿ˜

  • What an amazing story to tell your little one someday <3 I'll guess girl ๐Ÿ™‚ I have 2 daughters and 2 sons myself, every child is so different to raise, they truly are their own little person right from the start.

  • ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผthank you for sharing your powerful testimony ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”ฅ

  • Beautiful story loved it and what blows my mind is the Paster was right you did become pregnant within the time frame what a blessing..Iโ€™m thinking your having a boy ๐Ÿ’™

  • Do you think that your baby would ever feel sad seeing you didnโ€™t want this gender? I know you changed your mind and had a change of heart but as a child I would feel unwanted.

  • Okay your dogs face first off! I canโ€™t get over it lol. Iโ€™m so happy for you girl I really am. โค๏ธ

  • God is so Good ! All the time. There is so much power in prayer. I will continue to pray for your family. ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ

  • You're having a girl (my guess).. ๐Ÿ˜Š I wanted a boy so bad I had convinced myself my baby was a boy, there was a lot of reasons I wanted a boy and not a girl but I would not trade her for the world.. and when I asked God after a year of trying to please let me get pregnant with my husband that we were ready I didn't say (only if it's a boy though) so idk why my mind was so set when I did get pregnant.. I was so happy I didn't care until gender time came close, it came back up.. but everything happens the way it's supposed to. I am very blessed, and whatever your situation is, I know you are very blessed as well! I'm excited to find out the gender and I keep praying for you guys for a healthy, happy pregnancy/baby! โคโค

  • My pastor on last Sunday had the visiting preacher pray for my womb I am over the top excited and waiting on Gods promise ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ

  • I have to say that when people who have been through the struggle of infertility have gender preference it really upsets me. The fact that you said thank God you transferred your less desired gender for your failed transfer really breaks my heart for that baby. I think you really have some soul searching to do. As a fellow infertility sister, I am really discouraged by this video. Unsubscribing. I wish you well.

  • Twice I heard the Lord. Not with my pregnancy but with other parts of my life. HE is real and it is truly a blessing when you hear from the Lord. So excited for you both!

  • That was an amazing story, I do have a story something around like yours but it with direct contact with the Holy Spirit. Itโ€™s long story though. But I read that God has us wait to build our faith and character. It is so true. Before I got pregnant I had to wait and I was thinking itโ€™s never going to happen but thru the power of prayer and building faith believing what the Holy Spirit has revealed to me in my dreams. I mean the Holy Spirit even told me what the gender was. So Iโ€™m just waiting till next week to find out. But Iโ€™m excited again for you and again that was an amazing story. God is true and so good. Have a blessed one

  • Thanks for sharing your story. I hoped to have a girl for my first baby. All FIVE of my healthy embryos ended up being males. No girls at all lol. I transferred one earlier this week and am hoping to meet my first baby boy in June 2020. I'm glad I know because now I know that if I ever want a daughter I'd have to adopt or do another IVF with PGS to "try" again for female embryos.

  • I had 3 back to back losses and I prayed for a baby girl. I was so sure that God would send me my rainbow baby girl but at 15 weeks I found out I was expecting a baby boy. I know God sent me my boy for a reason and I cannot wait to see what good my baby will do in this world. Iโ€™m currently 27 weeks pregnant ๐Ÿ˜Š canโ€™t wait to find out the name and gender of your baby!

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