Hi I’m the Director for Common Knowledge Trust. We produce Birthing Better Childbirth Preparation online courses.
Today I want to talk to you about the e-Book and the video segments about our
Bony Structure of our pelvis. In a previous video I talked about the
Overview of both the Bony Structure and our Soft Tissue what families began to
understand in the 70s when these skills were being developed. We really didn’t
have a clue about how to prepare our body for birth. Often women would be told ‘Relax your shoulders’. Well babies aren’t coming out your shoulders. Or ‘Don’t stand on your tippy toes.’ Babies aren’t coming out your tippy toes.
People were not paying attention to where babies were coming out which was
the Bony Structure and then the Soft Tissue as well. It was very confusing.
It took us 15 years to really get clear about what we were talking about,
how to develop skills around the Bony Pelvis. Most people didn’t have a
clue. If we said to each other: ‘Well we have to do something by our pelvis’ most
people think it’s just one bone. They don’t have any understanding
how many bones there are, much less how that they move or how do they join up.
In the video segments we can show you. We actually got a woman’s pelvis which is
hard to find! We can show you a man’s pelvis and a woman’s pelvis and
the bones. These are skeletons so they don’t have all the connective tissue,
the soft tissue, the muscles, the fat, the skin on it. What allows our
Bony Structure to move is the fact we have Soft Tissue and our Mind.
These are able to make changes in these bones that articulate together. It’s
important to understand where your baby wants you to make space inside your Bony Pelvis. That’s what we go over in the video segments and show you how to
make space side-to-side with The Hip Lift, how to create space front-to-
back with the Sacral manoeuvre or to create space in the lower part of the
Bony Structure .. The Sit Bone Spread. It’s really important you
understand we can create more space in our pelvis even if you have a narrow
pubic arch. You probably never even felt your pubic arch! If you can’t
fit 3 fingers into your pubic arch then it is narrow. The positions you
take you can create more space. Do you know whether you have a long tail bone or a short tail bone or a curved sacrum or flat sacrum or a narrow sacrum or short sacrum or a wide sacrum. We didn’t know! We spent time understanding and
figuring this out because our Bony structure impacted whether our baby
could easily come down and through the pelvis. You have to understand that there
is a physical, practical relationship between our baby and the inside of our
body. Our baby is a 3-dimensional object is coming through the
3-dimensional container … our pregnant birthing body.
If the baby’s size (relative to the space inside us) is fine then it’s not going to be hindered. But, if the baby is relatively large for the
space inside us, it can take more time for our baby to move down and through the Bony Pelvis. We’re not even talking about opening the cervix …
because that’s the soft tissue. We’re just talking about being able to help
our baby move down through the Bony Structure. When women get ‘checked’, they’ll hear depending on whether they’re in the United States or in other
countries … ‘Your baby is engaged or a plus or minus station’. It’s really
important you understand where your baby really is. When we talk about the Bony Structure we’re talking about
creating more space in the sacrum. We have a skill called Kate’s Cat that’s
somewhat similar to The Sacral Manoeuvre. The Sacral Manoeuvre is done when you’re lying on your side. Kate’s Cat is done while you’re sitting, standing or moving around. In other words you learn to keep your sacrum
flexible. With The Hip Lift, most people don’t even think about whether the hips can
move in relationship to each other. If you lie on one side and you put your
hand on top of the big Hip Blade, then find the Sit Bone … the bone we
all sit on … and you gently go straight down and straight up like a lever.
This is where your leg bone meets. That is a teeter-totter leaver. You can move the Sit Bone up by gently pushing down on the Hip Bone. That creates space between the Sit Bones. Often people ask: ‘How much
space does a baby need?’ That’s an important question! We had to figure out
how much space does a baby need? Does it need this much space? Does it need this
much space? Does it need this much space? What we discovered was we think the
baby needs this much space if it’s stuck but that’s inaccurate. We learned
to have a physical representation of the difference between a stuck baby
and an unstuck baby… one that’s moving down and going from a 0 station or ‘engaged’ to a +2 or from high inside the pelvis then moving through the narrowest part of the pelvis,
then the cervix opening and moving down into the vagina. We have to understand if a baby got stuck in that narrow space how much space the baby did need to get unstuck.
We found if you put your fingers tightly together and
try to move them … that’s stuck. If you just soften but keep those
fingers touching (don’t move them apart just soften) then glide the thumb
and index finger. That’s all your baby needs. Your baby doesn’t need this much
space or doesn’t need this much space or doesn’t need this much space. It just
needs you to soften so it can move through. So learning how to create
space in your Bony structure … through the exercises on the videos and with the
e-Book … will help you understand that almost any subtle tension you create or
don’t even know you have can stop your baby from moving through your pelvis. If your baby is relatively large for the inside of your pelvis, the bone the baby
will move out if it needs more space is primarily the sacrum. This is why women
get back labor because the hardness of the head presses on the sacrum.
If the sacrum is tight and not mobile then you feel pain because the nerve endings
come down the spine and through the sacrum. Now a lot of people say ‘Well if your baby
is in a ‘posterior’ or ‘back-to-back’ position you’re more likely to get back labor’. Yes
and No. If your baby’s relative size to the inside of your pelvis is fine then
you will not get back labor.Iif your baby’s back is towards your belly
and your baby is quite tight then you can get ‘back labor’. If you have
a ‘tight’ sacrum, you need to understand how to create space using Kate’s Cat and The Sacrum Manoeuvre so that you are optimizing the ability of your
baby to open up your pelvis as it moves through the Bony Structure.
You’re helping your baby. This is good. The one benefit of these skills is
if you do have ‘back labor’ it will be in a certain
place in your sacrum. Iif it stays there then you know the baby is still
there. If you’ve learned to do the Internal Work and know how to ‘feel’
inside then you can feel there has been no change. The baby isn’t
moving down more but if you create space side-to-side or front-to-back. When the
pain shifts downward that tells you you’ve made space and your baby is moving down. Then if you check inside, the baby will have moved down. There will be
a change inside. So, families were very serious. We did not take the birth of our
baby lightly. We took it as though it is a very, very big event that
we have to do. The skills in Birthing Better are serious skills. They’re direct
skills. They’re practical skills. They’re effective skills but you have to learn
them, you have to practice them and then you have to choose to use them. How many people do a Hip Lift in birth? Somewhere around 30%.
How many do The Sacral Manoeuvre? Probably 10 or 15%.
How many do The Sit Bone Spread? Probably 5%. But when they know these skills and they feel the baby is stuck in these different places they do do it. How
many use Kate’s Cat? Probably 70%! Because it’s a reminder to keep your Sacral moving so the Bony Pelvis is in the videos and an eBook. Talk to you later. Bye-Bye