5 Tips for a better (birth) delivery with Dr. Daniel Hunde

5 Tips for a better (birth) delivery with Dr. Daniel Hunde


we always talk about the birth from the mother’s point of view but
what about the father? today’s episode Doctor Daniel Hunde Gynaecologist & Obstetrician The Walking Dad Hello! today we’re here
with my friend Daniel and Daniel is a doctor and he works helping
giving birth to babies what’s the biggest difference? how Sweden approaches the birth and other countries? the big difference is in like in Brazil, in France (*and most of the western countries) the doctor comes in in Brazil in France the doctor come in exactly when the baby
is supposed to be born and delivers the baby But in Sweden we have
this culture that a midwife deliveres the baby the doctor only comes in,
if it’s a complication we arrived there
(at the hospital) and went to a room yeah and I thought: “ok, we’re gonna be like a waiting room
or something” just until when is the moment and than no,
the baby was born the room we arrived and the clothes I had from the street and this is in Brazil is not like that no because you go you get special yeah like you look like a doctor
in a surgery like… one of the main reasons this channel exist is to talk about part of the parenting
that normally people do not talk about for sure is more important
the mother and the baby than us there’s no discussion about it but what the man should do? but okay but then what the man should do because it’s not so easy no it’s really tough.
I mean even myself despite that I know
how it’s supposed to do and I’m self I’m a doctor when it’s time for my own partner to get a baby I’m not good to see her in pain I knew what to look for in the charts
and everything but I was trying to
just become the father the father to be
or the partner and that’s hard. it was hard for me
to do that. before it was more like
I tried to think as a doctor but at the end I just became
the nervous partner as everybody else the mistake partners make I see a lot of fathers coming in first baby they have
their drinks with them Powerade, Redbull… and everything like that when the baby is delivered then fatherhood starts yeah motherhood starts
during the pregnancy yeah she’s being primed everybody around her
tells her what’s supposed to happen but for the father is.. when the baby is out “Here! Now I have to relax I have done this for 9 months. Take him!” DO SOMETHING, MAN! Do something! The baby is crying!
Do something! As he said: the baby is crying, do something! Done! Get your sleep
before the delivery because you are going to need
your energy it’s so easy to say it now but this is tip number 1 tip number 1: get your sleep before the baby comes most babies don’t come at 10 am they come at 10 pm or 5 am so it’s not so easy to be awake but I mean that weeks before try to get your sleep because when the baby comes
it’s up to you I remember one thing
that’s also different (in Sweden) you don’t watch the baby No after he is born here the first shower was
a month later I don’t know really
if it’s supposed to be that long but I know because
the baby has the baby fat yes, that’s what they said it is really protective
against a lot of things I think it also related to the mindset
of ‘skin to skin’ (with your new born) They say: “Now you dad take off the shirt.
Skin to skin” I don’t think my brother
with his 4 children ever had this ‘skin to skin’ because they’ve been washed and he was in like in the surgery (clothes) and when he took the baby, was already wrapped as a burrito a lot of (Swedish) studies
have shown that babies
when they are born prematurely the ‘body to body contact’ also known as ‘skin to skin’ is one of the most important
things for the baby because it releases hormones
that are good for them that is why us in Sweden
want the baby to come up to the mother or the father
as soon as possible because it’s good for their
immune system for their being calm
and everything like that I feel like here is more
humanized deliver because here it’s more like I think it’s… we have a good delivery system
here in Sweden they don’t want to separate the baby from the parent I think we have good data
that it’s a good result from it back to the tips tip number 2 let your partner be in the center take a step back and see what she needs it’s not about your… it’s not about you anymore it’s not about you it’s about the woman
and the baby to be and I think a lot of fathers are… they want they I want to have control they want to ask a lot of questions they want to to get briefings but instead just take care of your partner give her what she wants give her a back rub give her a drink just take a step back right there and right now the most important thing is that the women gets
the attention they need because is hard to give birth well I don’t know. I imagine it is I will never know it looks hard to give birth! yes It takes a lot of energy
and it’s painful as I was saying before
is also so hard to be there so hard to pretend everything’s fine and she’s in pain they first they gave her
this local injection and then they gave her the gas I said something like: “Next baby would do differently”
and she said I said: “I WILL NOT HAVE
ANOTHER BABY!” you cannot tell a woman… and the midwife said: “bad timing” yes, bad timing it’s not it’s not good to plan
the next baby during the first delivery tip number 3: never mention having another baby
during labour!!! She started to be super mad at me,
rude to me but she was super sweet
to the midwife so I said:
“Babe, drink something” “I DON’T WANT ANYTHING TO DRINK!” the second after the Midwife:
“Come on, drink something” “ok” and the midwife started to laugh because she knew was because of the gas the midwife can help her with this situation Tip number 4 (Be ready) people say: (prepare your bag with pillows) “take your pillows you will use it
if you to have to sleep” that’s something I regret I didn’t (snacks) and something to eat.
I regret I didn’t a laptop (playlist) a good music list you can play not too much heavy food don’t eat Chinese food or Indian food
before the before but are you talking about
the father or the mother? Both. Because you won’t be able
to go to the restroom because you had
some bad Indian food “Sorry you missed your baby being born
because you were in the toilet” That’s not a good excuse Not a good memory “why your are not at the first picture
with the baby?” “I was busy” “I was busy” one good tip if everything goes okay partner
is having a vaginal birth this doesn’t sound so so flattering
‘vaginal birth’ But for a doctor that’s a normal thing Tip number 5 Learn some massage tricks Maybe bring your ‘tens’ (machine) and massage her fro
the lower back and down because there is a plane pain
is going to be and you will be the best dad
in the whole world just for that moment for that half an hour I can’t guarantee anything else
but for that half an hour you will be Natural versus C-section Should the father have a different behaviour between natural or c-section birth? The operation takes maybe 30 minutes and after that the women usually have to lay in there in the
post-operative world for maybe 2 hours during that time the dad has
to be able to have the baby because she can’t carry weight and… she cannot move her legs during the c-section
stay on your side don’t cross the line don’t cross the line and don’t film us one of the things that we don’t like
is when people just put the cameras and film us and film the operation
and a stuff like that that’s not a good behaviour, I think we have a surprise now we have a new baby! we can go that way then come on!
let’s go to mamma! I mean here in Sweden,
you can get a c-section if the baby has the head up
and the bottom down okay if you are really really afraid
and have talked to a nurse, midwife and doctor and still cannot bear to have a natural
you can also have a c-section like some complication, preeclampsia
or something other like that and we do a c-section and if you have a malformation
in the uterus and we don’t think it’s safe
for the baby to come out naturally and also even the mother has
any kind of mental problems, right? it depends we don’t think that she can go
through a delivery and if we don’t think that the medication
can be paused then we can do it well we had a lot of information! I hope this will be useful for you
that are already fathers the ones that already have other kids or they ones expecting kids I just can thank you very much Daniel
for all this time and help it’s my pleasure!
and maybe if you want we can do a follow up if you get questions so if you have doubts,
write in the comments I send the comments to him and we can do something.
My pleasure! thank you very much! Subscribe! Like it! Comment! And see you next video! Bye! Bye! recorded at
Norra Djurgåstaden, Stockholm, Sweden

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